couple tHERAPY


 

I have extensive experience working with couples.  Couples counselling is a type of therapy that looks to aid communication and facilitate change within an intimate relationship. Typically the term couples counselling is applied when the therapy is specifically designed for two people within a relationship


Seeking counselling or psychotherapy for problems in your relationship does not mean it is doomed to failure. In fact, 80 per cent of Relate clients say it has made their relationships stronger. Learning better ways to talk to each other, to share parenting and to live together in a mutually beneficial way is well worth the time and emotional effort it will take to work problems through.


What are relationship difficulties?

Most of us want to have a happy, unified, long-term relationship in our lives. Whatever our sexuality, culture or age, the idea of a "significant other" is, for many, a sign of a fulfilling life.  ​A breakdown in that relationship can often lead to great discord, even divorce. 


Common causes of relationship difficulties


​There are typical patterns that develop in couples, whether married or cohabiting. These include: 

  • Neglecting to spend enough pleasurable time together due to such pressures as work and parenting
  • Taking one another for granted
  • Conflict that is allowed to simmer over time
  • Failure to manage the difference between the two individuals
  • Withdrawal of affection or sex
  • Breach of trust (infidelity, secret gambling, telling lies).


How couples therapy can help

It can be very effective in helping with relationship difficulties.  What used to be called marriage guidance is now called couples counselling or relationship counselling and has its own distinctive training; I chose to train with a recognised and highly qualified relate therapist with over 20 years experience.  Usually both members of the couple will attend, though sometimes i may also see you individually. If there has been violence, I will help you work out the best way forward.